Why I joined

Why did I move to Tonbridge, leaving my comfortable, familiar life of three and a half decades to start again? Walking away from our history, friends, colleagues, students, I knew would be difficult, and a risk, but the impact of widowhood, COVID and a settled family in Tonbridge lured me south from Suffolk.

I knew of the u3a and so in an effort to meet people of my own age and interests (we can't expect your children to look after you all the

time) I went to a coffee morning. A friendly welcome, a cuppa and a chat resulted in me being signed up on the day. It wasn't until a

few months later that I was amused to realise that I had also been scouted as a potential committee member of the Theatre group!

As a member of the Cycling group, Country Walking group and Theatre committee, I met a lot of people quickly. Soon I was invited to

events beyond the regular meetings and I began to establish some roots. My connections with people in the town were beginning to form a social life. I encouraged others in my situation (and there are many who have moved to Tonbridge in later life for various reasons) as well as locals who did not know of the u3a, to consider Tonbridge u3a as a means to making new friends, finding activities that interest them and developing a sense of purpose. I believe it's by being involved actively that you begin to establish a sense of community, create new memories and a fledgling history for yourself and others. You have to go out and make an effort because a new life is very unlikely to drop randomly into your lap.

Now on the Management Committee and serving as the Theatre for All coordinator, I am grateful for so many wonderful opportunities during the past 5 years. I've met some extraordinary people, made good friends and I'm now feeling more part of life in Tonbridge.

I would encourage people to join in, maybe in groups that are beyond your immediate comfort zone and take a risk – I've tried several groups and stuck to some too. Life as a part of a community is very rewarding.

Do you have a story about what Tonbridge u3a means to you? We’d love to hear it. Even a few words about your experience can help show just how enjoyable and rewarding u3a membership can be. We’re hoping to share short member stories in future Spotlight articles, and your contribution could inspire others to get involved. Your story doesn’t need to be long or polished, and including your name or a photo is completely optional. If you’re interested in taking part, simply let the editor know.

Julie Grimsey